The Salaryman, The Yakuza and The Host Boy.

Really random, but did you have a blog before? I feel like I used to read a blog a long time ago, that sounds a lot like what you talk about and post. I missed that blog, so I'm so happy to have stumbled upon your tumblr :3 Very interesting to see your views on everything! Some of the Q&As are so entertaining!

Fri, 24 May 2013 06:03:53 +0900

I used to write my blog on blogspot quite a long time ago, but since then I’ve just been using this :)

For the other anons...GOD... WHY?! Not every man is the same, there are asshole out there, perverts, playboys, stupid guys, smart guys, pretty guys, rich guys, etc etc and srsly if you just hunt for japanese guys why arn't they allowed to hunt for forgein girls? To be honest my bf is japanese but god i didnt fall for him cause he is japanese thats like wanting to date someone cause they have nice eyes but you dont give a fuck about the person .... // btw love to read your blog

Fri, 24 May 2013 06:03:30 +0900

THIS!

hairdresser sounds like a lier! What if he doesn't wanna accept you on facebook because he's playing the same game with many other girls and the ex-gf story is just a lie?! Please take care to not get your feelings hurt~

Fri, 24 May 2013 06:00:49 +0900

I think he is a massive liar. So I just need to pick myself and move on I guess.

I said that to him and explained how I understood his issue with his ex seeing and that I would hide the pictures from FB so no one could see, and that I really want him to accept me since I felt he had something to hide.

That is when it went downhill and our communication got a little messy. WHICH, honestly just screams, fuck you’re spot on.

Oh Love your blog. Reading it since years, can't get enough :-) My life is a bit the same, but just less intense (read: less guys). Going to Japan for a week on businesstrip next month, so hope to get some guys into my hotel room ^^ hehe

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:59:01 +0900

Hahah!! Good luck ;]

I really think I need to slow down on the guy count though honestly.

In the other message you said you’re 27. Do you ever feel like the guys you go for are just super young? I’m in my early 20’s I guess but nearly every guy that I meet that is my type is usually between 18-22, sometimes I’m lucky and they are around 25 lol. I just can’t seem to meet older guys lol!

I've only recently starting reading your blog and your life seems so fascinating. What kind of job do you have? I would imagine it's hard to support yourself when you're in another country. I've had friends who have studied abroad or decided to teach in English in another country and they told be it can get so expensive. P.S. I really hope everything in your love life works out. Everyone deserve to find happiness. <3

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:57:08 +0900

I just teach English part time and it is kind of hard to try and support yourself. However, if I was working full time then there would be no problem at all since the pay is pretty good.

Thank you, I hope it does too but it seems I just keep meeting wankers lol.

so i'm the girl who will be going clubbing in tokyo soon. i kinda have a problem, i don't really know anyone in tokyo except for one girl and i'll be going clubbing with her. but i though she'd be taking a big group of her friends with us, but it's only going to be us two. i wouldn' care so much if not for the fact that i really want to pull. i'm worried about how she'll feel if i start hitting on guys or if i go leave her. do you think it will be ok or would it be better if i went by myself?

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:55:44 +0900

Personally, I don’t like going by myself. It doesn’t feel very safe to go alone and leave with a stranger that none of your friends has seen you leave with.

I would personally talk to her about it, express how you want to hit on guys etc, she might even want to do the same?

Usually, if there’s two of us. I’d stay in the club until my friend can get home and I wouldn’t go off with the guy alone for too long. You can always take his number and meet up at first train.

Do you carry condoms around with you or do you just rely on the guy to have them? I have some but I'm worried about what a guy might think if I bring them out.

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:53:09 +0900

I used to carry them around with me actually but now I don’t.

I expect the guy to have them in his house and I have them in my house and the only other place I have sex is in hotels, that have condoms.

Japan is a very heavy condom using country (if they don’t just do the pull-out method like stupid dickheads), so I’ve never had a problem where I guy didn’t have any actually.

is atom good on a weekday? i thought it was only good on saturday and sunday.

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:51:11 +0900

The weekday is more of a party hard crowd and students. I like Thursdays.

I don't get why we're so different in size since I'm only a few inches taller than you (albeit I'm considered tall), and you don't weigh that much more than me. I'm a US size 4/6.

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:50:50 +0900

Muscle weight? Different proportions?
My body shape means all my weight is on my hips and stomach, so fml.

Hey I just came across your blog and you're my hero. I'm actually living together with my bf but want to swing because we don't fuck anymore. I can't go out partying or be away all night, so how can I meet guys to hook up during the day? Do u any good websites?

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:49:46 +0900

I’d just do a quick search for dating websites, because it depends on your country.

Friend meeting sites or something?

I hope your boyfriend is OK about your choice.

In my experience, it is possible to find a Japanese guy who has lived in Japan his whole life and is different from the majority of Jap. guys, but you have to be extremely lucky. I would say it is very difficult as most of them do find their job as a priority and their relationships as secondary. It is a very different culture from what Eur./Americans are used to so I understand the other anon's frustration and bad experience. The ones I find 'different' are usually artists or musicians.

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:48:35 +0900

Yeah, I’ve met a few people that have been very different and willing to take foreigners seriously and as you said they are usually musicians lol.

I mean, I know it’s possible. But it’s also more likely to find someone who wants to know what it’s like to sleep with a white girl

it's really rare to find a japanese guy who is serious about you :(

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:47:07 +0900

Yeah, I’m gathering this right now :(

Love your blog, been following you and your great little adventures for a couple of months now. You probably get this question a lot but I just HAVE to ask, curiosity killed the cat. Im Mexican, light skin, brown eyes and long brown beach wavy hair, but people always say I look filippina. Im 5'5 and 130 pounds, I work out so i have a bit of muscle, but also I have problems with my skin breaking out bad every now and then, do you think japanese boys will like me?

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:46:54 +0900

Seriously, think and look at this question.

I get these type of questions time and time again.

But honestly, I think they are idiotic questions.

Do you have the same taste as your friend? Does everyone in America only like people of the exact same type, height, weight and colour? OBVIOUSLY NOT! So how does that make Japanese guys any different.

If it was like that, everyone would just look the same or the world would die from lack of copulation.

So where is a good place to meet and fuck girls like you in Tokyo?

Fri, 24 May 2013 05:44:31 +0900

I have no idea about where to fuck girls, the places I go are usually just full of Japanese guys my type.

Like me, being foreign, then roppongi?
Like me, being into sex, good luck anywhere, most likely Shibuya.

Ergh,

Thu, 23 May 2013 18:53:07 +0900

Since Hairdresser, I’ve fucked another 8 new people.

I’m so fucking behind!

Genital Warts.

Thu, 23 May 2013 18:52:02 +0900

I’m glad I like having the lights on…..

I had a guy come over on Monday and things were going quite well until I started rubbing my hand over his cock and when I got near the base, he kept his hands firmly there and was like “Let’s turn off the the lights, lets turn off the lights”

It just all seemed a little suspicious, and he knew it.

Because as soon as I went to go down on him, he paniced like a little bitch. I pushed him down and took a look at his cock in full light and low and behold, something I’m pretty sure was warts.

I stopped and told him, that I think he has an STD and should go to the doctor to get treated.

He tried to tell me that, it’s from when he cut himself shaving and he’s been the doctors and he’s fine.

I’m sorry mate but I’ve been shaving for years and never once have I grown something that looks like that.

Geez.

Don’t forget to check their cock for signs of diseases ;]

Let’s just say, we didn’t do anything more since the warts themselves are quite contagious and not protected by condoms, especially considering where he had them!

Numer 65 - Hairdresser.

Thu, 23 May 2013 18:43:24 +0900

I finally decided to continue writing again, I’m still pretty upset over this guy but I guess I’ll just need to move the fuck on and man up. I’m not short of attention but I guess I lack the spark with many guys and since him there’s only been one other guy I’d possibily think about it working with.

But yes, Hairdresser is surprisingly a hairdresser.

We met up on his days off and sometimes after his work. We went on actual dates and took cute purikura together, talking about shit and emailing everyday.

Then, although he had told me he doesn’t use facebook, I found his profile.

After confronting him, he said he didn’t want his ex-girlfriend to see us and that although he will never get back with her, he is still harbouring feelings for her since he believed they would get married, feelings that makes him unsure about what we were.

I can’t stand how he lied to me, and how that again might be another cover up lie.

After arguing and not coming to a conclusion, we broke contact.

I’ve tried to reconcile with him, as I thought about if I’d want my ex on my facebook seeing pictures of him, which I wouldn’t. But it’s all been a bit bullshit.

He cancelled on me last minute last weekend and said he would let me know when his next day off is. After no contact for 5 days, I asked again and he said to wait. Another 3 days and I just said to him, you really still don’t know? That’s a lie isn’t it. Considering he updated his facebook with pictures of him (and you can obviously see a girls phone/little bit of her hair in the background), I took the move of deleted our chat history and to therefore cease waiting for his reply.

Fuck him.

Prick.

My biggest pet peeve, is guys who lead you on.

This guy, told me after about 2-3 weeks that he didn’t want me seeing other boys or flirting with others boys because he’d be jealous. I told him what if he gets with other girls, to which he said he wasn’t and that he likes me. He would hold my hand and kiss my forehead and the last time we met, he said he wanted to introduce me to his friends.

Talk about a fucking U turn.

Hello there ! I just found your blog around 1-2months ago and I've been reading my way from the oldest post first until the newer ones ! still have around 13 more pages to finish though But omg just want to let you know that your blog is very interesting to read ! Also, I'm kind of curious, what is the normal age of japanese people to lose their virginity ? I heard quite a few lose it at a very young age and I just can't imagine it seeing how my japanese crush seems to be the quiet type @__@

Sat, 18 May 2013 14:07:13 +0900

It really depends.

Recently I slept with that guy who was a virgin and he was 30!

I’ve met guys who are around 19-20 and still haven’t had sex.

BUT I’ve also met a lot of guys who lost it when they were 13-15 ish.

My ex was 14, my ex before that was 16.

It’s the same in every country. You will have some people who loose it early and others who don’t. But even the quiet ones will surprise you

Could you please give me an idea about the beauty standard in Japan ? Like, very generally -every country would usually have their own beauty standards like in Korea which favor v-line face, big eyes, often straight brows etc, so I'm just curious about Japan :3

Sat, 18 May 2013 14:05:15 +0900

The positive things I get told here…

“WOW your face is so small!”

“OMG your eyes are so big!”

“I LOVE how high the bridge of your nose is!”

In Japan, a small face is a a desireable thing. I’ve heard guys call a girl ugly by commenting on how big her face is.

Nose shape and small noses are a positive.

As far as I’m concerned most guys have liked girls with long curled hair.

I’ve been overwhelmed with a mass of questions, so I’m just going to answer a few today...

Sat, 18 May 2013 14:02:58 +0900

I’ve been overwhelmed with a mass of questions, so I’m just going to answer a few today and tackle the rest tomorrow or Monday.

Today, I bumped into my ex. He ran up to me on the street and said he was excited to see me. It was kind of weird, I didn’t know what to say. He said sorry and he grabbed my hand. I told him if he’s working then he shouldn’t do that and he said he didn’t care and he’s going to quit soon anyway he thinks. He asked me to go to his tonight, but I said no.

I want to see him but blah. I have plans, and even if I didn’t I don’t feel up to seeing him just yet.

I also spent last night with Honey. He kept getting worried about his customers seeing us together, he made me walk ahead and wait around the corner like 2 times because he saw someone he knew. Ergh.

My hand hurts and I don’t know why :(