Hello there ! I just found your blog around 1-2months ago and I've been reading my way from the oldest post first until the newer ones ! *still have around 13 more pages to finish though* But omg just want to let you know that your blog is very interesting to read ! Also, I'm kind of curious, what is the normal age of japanese people to lose their virginity ? I heard quite a few lose it at a very young age and I just can't imagine it seeing how my japanese crush seems to be the quiet type @__@
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It really depends.
Recently I slept with that guy who was a virgin and he was 30!
I’ve met guys who are around 19-20 and still haven’t had sex.
BUT I’ve also met a lot of guys who lost it when they were 13-15 ish.
My ex was 14, my ex before that was 16.
It’s the same in every country. You will have some people who loose it early and others who don’t. But even the quiet ones will surprise you
Could you please give me an idea about the beauty standard in Japan ? Like, very generally -every country would usually have their own beauty standards like in Korea which favor v-line face, big eyes, often straight brows etc, so I'm just curious about Japan :3
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The positive things I get told here…
“WOW your face is so small!”
“OMG your eyes are so big!”
“I LOVE how high the bridge of your nose is!”
In Japan, a small face is a a desireable thing. I’ve heard guys call a girl ugly by commenting on how big her face is.
Nose shape and small noses are a positive.
As far as I’m concerned most guys have liked girls with long curled hair.
I’ve been overwhelmed with a mass of questions, so I’m just going to answer a few today and tackle the rest tomorrow or Monday.
Today, I bumped into my ex. He ran up to me on the street and said he was excited to see me. It was kind of weird, I didn’t know what to say. He said sorry and he grabbed my hand. I told him if he’s working then he shouldn’t do that and he said he didn’t care and he’s going to quit soon anyway he thinks. He asked me to go to his tonight, but I said no.
I want to see him but blah. I have plans, and even if I didn’t I don’t feel up to seeing him just yet.
I also spent last night with Honey. He kept getting worried about his customers seeing us together, he made me walk ahead and wait around the corner like 2 times because he saw someone he knew. Ergh.
My hand hurts and I don’t know why :(
Thanks so much for the great tips! We might wind up going to Atom actually, on Friday. One more reason to go buy new club clothes, haha~ Tokyo is such a great city, you're lucky to be here! (:
I can rarely go out on the weekend because I need to work.
Actually, I can rarely go clubbing since I have zero days off. Ever ha!
I got around in Japan too and here are my two cents. Keep your head up. It’s not you at all; I think most Japanese guys are kind of fucked up. I think one can probably argue that guys in general are fucked up, but Japanese guys are a special kind of fucked up that maybe I can’t deal with because I wasn’t raised in this culture. In my 6 years of experience in Japan (30+ guys), I have made some general observations. I think Japanese guys in their 20s are jealous and get angry over the dumbest thin
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things. They play mind games and can’t express their feelings very well. As soon as there is a problem, they blame it on you being foreign or them being Japanese and they never try to solve anything. They want to fuck a foreigner but they don’t want to get serious with one. A lot of them are stupid and also kind of racist, even guys from big cities who went to university. I feel like western guys are more intelligent and can appreciate girls who have opinions and openly voice them, but most Japa
Japanese guys can’t. They want their girlfriends to be seen and not heard. Also, I'm not overweight but I'm not as slim as Japanese girls either. No guy here has ever called me fat or told me I needed to lose weight to be with him, but I have been told I would be sexier if I lost a few kilograms. I nearly became anorexic to try to impress the dude who said this, which was stupid on my part. I had become pretty fed up recently and I’m in my late 20s now, so I decided that if I want to get marrie
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married and have kids someday, I’m probably going to have to go home and meet someone because Japanese guys and I don’t mix. That’s when I met my current boyfriend. He’s Japanese, but he is a few years older than me and he is not like typical Japanese guys. He also wasn’t particularly interested in foreigners, so when he was pursuing me, I knew it was for me and not for the novelty of fucking a foreigner. We get along great and I’m pretty sure this is the guy I want to marry. So my advice is e
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So my advice is enjoy Japan, hook up with dudes if that’s what you want to do, but don’t expect anything from them because most of them are fucked up. Maybe you will get lucky like I did and meet a nice guy who loves you for who you are, especially if you go for older/not typical Japanese guys. It has happened for a few of my other foreign female friends too, so I know it’s possible. Just be you and have a great time, and guys who know what’s up will be happy to be with you.
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I don’t expect things for most guys actually.
In total, I’ve fucked 19 new guys this time and 3 guys I already knew.
Dated one, didn’t work out.
Wanted to date the korean guy, didn’t work out but then he got angry when I got a bf and now ignores me because he’s jealous.
Wanted to date some guy I’ve not wrote about yet, isn’t working out.
The rest, I didn’t even want to date. I didn’t expect anything but sex or want anything else for that matter.
But I had one guy who wanted to date me, too clingy.
Another guy who wanted to date me, too blah… However, both spoke English.
I think the language barrier can be tough, and I’m not studying lately, opps.
I do also consider that I’ll find a better guy back home, but who knows. But I think, I’ve experience the same shit there and here, guys generally don’t express their feelings well. Anywhere.
But my pet hate is the “I’m Japanese”, because that is NOT a fucking excuse or reason to be a dick. I totally agree with you on the most part, but boys are boys. I think cultural and moral differences are going to occur everywhere, I just need to meet a guy who is very willing to understand that I’m not Japanese as a lot of them seem to forget.
I honestly think one of the things is a lot of guys don’t want to settle down at that age. They want to go out and play around for the most part.
Also since I’m studying here, the inevitability of my leave in the near future, puts off the ones who are actually serious. That was my last problem, if I date a girl, its for the long term. So leaving in the near future, would be tough.
although that seems like such a bullshit excuse.
I really don’t know.
I’m glad you happened to find someone nice and worthwhile :)
You've mentioned using dating sites in Japan before, which ones do you recommend? (For guys and girls)
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My friend suggested badoo so I used that. Mixi used to be quite good for it and I’ve also used facebook to some success.
There’s an iphone app called eyeland, that’s meant to be good but I didn’t like it so much actually.
"there’s a massive difference between someone wanting to fuck you and date you". i dont mean to offend you but you do realize that most of the time,you seem to act very sexy and the guys think you just wanna fuck them too? almost no guy gets serious about a girl who quickly agrees to sex on first dates, and they probably think you arent serious either so they dont even try. another thing is the language barrier of course...
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Honestly, I don’t think guys know about my sluttyness.
When they ask if I sleep around, I say I don’t.
When they say I seem popular, I say I guess so but usually they aren’t my type so nothing happens.
When they ask about my past boyfriends, I seem quite picky. Recently broke up with my ex, before that I was single for a year and half.
When they say, I bet lots of boys stay over, I say no and I only asked them to stay because it was late and I wanted to drink for a while and I wouldn’t be able to hang out with them if they didn’t stay.
Unless, I’m totally not into the guy in which I tell them I’m a player.
If I like the guy, I honestly don’t think I give a massive impression that I’m just after sex. With some guys, yes, because I don’t want anything else.
And sometimes, I tell the guy we shouldn’t have sex because it’s too soon. I tell them I’m shy. I say I don’t know if it’s a good idea.
Then they tell me it’s ok and they like me, and we do it anyway just as I expected.
But yeah, language barrier does suck.
Well I don't know, no one's ever told me I should diet. They always tell me how slender I am. I'm 5"6 1/2 and 127lbs.
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I’m around 5ft 3.
I think I need more muscle! :(
